"The void is always there." What you know to be true if you grew up without your mum. (2024)

FAQs

How to tell father passed away in interview? ›

I would give anything and everything I have right now to have my father back in this world. There is not a day that goes by that I don't miss him, or wonder what life would be like if he were still here. It's been five years since my father passed away from cancer.

"If tears could build a stairway,and memories a lane, I'd walk right up to Heaven and bring you home again." "Although it's difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, May looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow." "Grief is itself a medicine."

"The loss of my father will always sting. But now, everything that I do is in honor of him and celebrates his life." "The heart of a father is the masterpiece of nature." "Although our lives' journeys have bid us to be apart, I am with you, you are with me, always in our hearts.

Low Self-Worth and Self-Esteem Issues

Growing up without a father's consistent presence can negatively impact a girl's self-worth and self-esteem. The lack of a father's affirmation and support can result in feelings of inadequacy, self-doubt, and a diminished sense of worth.

The hardest age to lose a mother can vary significantly among individuals, but adolescence is often cited as particularly challenging. During this time, the emotional and developmental needs are acute, and the loss can deeply affect identity formation, emotional stability, and the ability to form secure relationships.

“You're often losing someone who loved you unconditionally and gave you a sense of safety and stability,” says Holly Schiff, PsyD, a psychologist with Jewish Family Services of Greenwich in Connecticut. If you had a more complicated relationship, you may struggle with feelings of anger or regret.

How does losing your mom change you? ›

The world around you will change, seasons will pass, and holidays will fly by, but your world may seem to stop. Your brain will be forced to grasp how someone can be present in every way but also physically gone forever – a dissonance that creates significant stress and anxiety.

The death of a mother is one of the most traumatic things someone can experience. If you are currently grieving your mother, give yourself grace. Whether you had a good relationship or not with her, there will always be grief associated with either the actual relationship you had or the one you wish you had.

Research shows that many in this age group experience emotional and behavioural issues after losing a parent. Grief is the price we pay for love. The closer our attachment to the person we lose, the more intense our grief. As we get older, we gradually accept that our parents will not be around forever.

Create memories and stories

Often when a person is dying, they like to reflect on their past and think of their achievements so that they can see that their life has been important. If your mum or dad feels up to it, you could sit down and talk about their favourite memories and look back over their life.